Siblings - How to foster a strong bond from the start

Sibling relationships are for life

Siblings enjoying each others companyThroughout life, we may change friends and even partners, but our siblings will always be same. It is one of the most important relationships we will ever form, and there is a long-term benefit to getting it right from the start.

As a parent, you have the power to instil positive behaviour into your sibling from the start. You can teach the importance of caring for each other, empathy and mutual respect. This is best introduced before your children develop their individual personality traits.

During their childhood, your siblings will spend a lot of time together and the way they interact will affect the whole family.

The first five years of life are most important and are often called the formative years. Before children start school they are likely to spend a lot of time playing with their siblings. During that time siblings mutually influence each other.

Research has shown that this interaction is of developmental importance to both children. It influences both their social and cognitive learning.

 

The new arrival

The arrival of a new baby will have a dramatic effect on the first child’s relationship with his parents. Your first child may until now have enjoyed your undivided attention. But now the first child has to learn to share the parents.
New baby jealousy
In reality for your child it possibly feels even worse than that.

Your child has to learn to wait, whilst she witnesses the baby's needs being met immediately.

It can be particularly hard for children under three to accept a new baby situation. This is because they are less able to articulate their feelings than older children. And older children who have formed other attachments, maybe at nursery, are less reliant on the parent.

Fortunately, there are a few simple things you can do to aid the development of a strong positive bond between your older child and the new baby.


How a play mat can help

Physical closeness is important for mothers to bond with their babies.  But siblings also bond by being near each other.  New babies are delicate.   The temptation is always there to keep the baby somewhere safe whilst the energetic toddler is thrashing about. But keeping the older child nearby will make him feel part of the closeness between you and your baby.

New babies are delicate.   The temptation is always there to keep the baby somewhere safe whilst the energetic toddler is thrashing about. But keeping the older child nearby will make him feel part of the closeness between you and your baby.

New babies are delicate.   The temptation is always there to keep your baby somewhere safe whilst the energetic toddler is thrashing about. But keeping your older child nearby will make him feel part of the closeness between you and your baby.

The Cosyplay mat was developed to allow parents to spend time with their baby in a comfortable and relaxing environment.  Luckily, it is also big enough to accommodate older children.  The memory foam and soft fleece cover will offer a warm and cosy place for the baby, whilst providing plenty of room for a toddler to join with some favourite toys.

 

Growing up together

During the first two months of his life, your baby will learn to get used to the outside world. It is a good idea to allow your sibling to stay close, so your baby can get used to your older child's voice and presence.
Soon your baby will not just tolerate his sibling, but show excitement and interest to join any activities.

For more valuable information on making the most out of interacting with your baby check out our blog.